Nothing is known as failure.
Everything is just an experience.
Learn from them.
Friday, February 13, 2009
Monday, January 12, 2009
Discover the 90/10 Principle
It will change your life (at least the
way you react to situations). What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided
by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot
stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving,
which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in
traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. However, you
can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you; YOU can control
how you react.
Let us use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You
have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the
next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold
your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse
and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the
table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change
your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy
crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the
bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are
late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-
minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After
arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive
home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and
daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad
day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted
in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could
have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently
say, "Its ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and
your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window
and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive
5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on
how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other
90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let
the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the
negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,
getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel
fall
Off)
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try to bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars
ruin your drive.
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It
will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another
job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no
control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passenger.
Why are stressed out? It will just make
Things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will
be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this
principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress,
trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change Everbody's life!
way you react to situations). What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided
by how you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot
stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving,
which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in
traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different.
You determine the other 90%.
How? By your reaction. You cannot control a red light. However, you
can control your reaction. Do not let people fool you; YOU can control
how you react.
Let us use an example: You are eating breakfast with your family. Your
daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You
have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the
next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold
your daughter for knocking the cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse
and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the
table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change
your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy
crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the
bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are
late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-
minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school.
Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After
arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your
briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to
get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive
home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and
daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad
day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted
in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could
have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently
say, "Its ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel, you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and
your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window
and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive
5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on
how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why? Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other
90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be a sponge. Let
the attack roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the
negative comment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your
day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,
getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper?
Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel
fall
Off)
Do you curse?
Does your blood pressure skyrocket?
Do you try to bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars
ruin your drive.
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It
will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another
job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.
Why take out your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no
control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the
other passenger.
Why are stressed out? It will just make
Things worse. Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will
be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it.
The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this
principle.
The result? Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress,
trials, problems and heartache.
We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change Everbody's life!
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Faces of life
Two faces of life:
Happiness and sorrow
Happiness--> day
Sorrow--> night
After every night there is a new and bright day:)
Tragedy of life
When u are near no one notice u
But when you are far no one forgets u...that's d life :)
But when you are far no one forgets u...that's d life :)
Monday, December 31, 2007
Marriage
It's a gamble in which either both the players will win or loose...one alone can't win:)
-- Deepti
-- Deepti
Advice
Everybody defines life in their own way...It is nothing but simply your experiences...It's not like any standard book in which after chapter 1 (childhood), chapter 2(adolescence) will start...their are many children who do not know what is childhood...the day they enter into this world they have just one aim in life till the end of their life--"How to earn bread?"
Every child is not so lucky that they born with a silver spoon in their mouth....
It's easy to give advice but it's difficult to feel/ experience the life of other...in this world 95% people give advice without realizing it why the other did so ....
What we see is not always true...if someone smiles doesn't mean that he/ she is happy...he/she may hiding something from the world bcoz they don't want to cry in front of the people who don't understand him/her.....
-- Deepti
Thursday, December 27, 2007
Beauty
"Do you love me because I'm beautiful, or am I am beautiful because you love me?" – Oscar Hammerstein, II
"That which is striking and beautiful is not always good, but that which is good is always beautiful." -- Ninon de L'Enclos
"Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty - they merely move it from their faces into their hearts."-- Martin Buxbaum
"Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it."--Confucius
"Beauty... when you look into a woman's eyes and see what is in her heart." --Nate Dircks
"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world." -- Bill Wilson
"When I first saw you, I was afraid to talk to you. When I first talked to you, I was afraid to like you. When I first liked you, I was afraid to love you. Now that I love you, I'm afraid to lose you." -- Unknown
"The face is the mirror of the mind, and eyes without speaking confess the secrets of the heart."-– St. Jerome
"That which is striking and beautiful is not always good, but that which is good is always beautiful." -- Ninon de L'Enclos
"Some people, no matter how old they get, never lose their beauty - they merely move it from their faces into their hearts."-- Martin Buxbaum
"Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it."--Confucius
"Beauty... when you look into a woman's eyes and see what is in her heart." --Nate Dircks
"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world." -- Bill Wilson
"When I first saw you, I was afraid to talk to you. When I first talked to you, I was afraid to like you. When I first liked you, I was afraid to love you. Now that I love you, I'm afraid to lose you." -- Unknown
"The face is the mirror of the mind, and eyes without speaking confess the secrets of the heart."-– St. Jerome
"By plucking her petals,you do not gather the beauty of the flower"-- Ravindrath Tagore
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